Avoidant Personality

AUTISM- (working autism) Picture Thoughts, Narcissism and Avoidant Personality Disorder

I found the following on the web in a Narcissistic newsletter from Dr. Sam Vaknin,

"People suffering from the Avoidant Personality Disorder feel inadequate,unworthy, inferior, and lacking in self-confidence. As a result, they areshy and socially inhibited. Aware of their real (and, often, imagined)shortcomings, they are constantly on the lookout, are hypervigilant and hypersensitive. Even the slightest, most constructive and well-meant or helpful criticism and disagreement are perceived as complete rejection,ridicule, and shaming. Consequently, they go to great lengths to avoid situations that require interpersonal contact - such as attending school,making new friends, accepting a promotion, or teamwork activities. Hence the Avoidant Personality Disorder.

Inevitably, Avoidants find it difficult to establish intimate relationships.They "test' the potential friend, mate, or spouse to see whether they acceptthem uncritically and unconditionally. They demand continue verbalreassurances that they really wanted, desired, loved, or cared about.

Continue to read this article here (click on this link):http://samvak.tripod.com/personalitydisorders20.htmlThe article you just read is part of my book, "Malignant Self Love -Narcissism Revisited" (January 2007)You can buy the EIGHTH PRINT edition of "Malignant Self Love - NarcissismRevisited" (January 2007) from Barnes and Noble (the cheapest - but doesnot include the bonus pack):http://search.barnesandnoble.com/bookSearch/isbnInquiry.asp?r=1&ISBN=9788023833843(Or, click on this link - http://www.bn.com - and search for "Sam Vaknin" or"Malignant Self Love")." truncated past this point

Here is the text again in BLUE and Green Are my comments from an autism point of view.

PLEASE NOTE the autism traits I mention here are figured out autism a thought process that has never been in a text book before and is based on the old figured out Crypto Sensitive Autism of time gone by, old working Picture thought Autism if you will. This is the stuff well beyond what Temple Grandin wrote about and the very Autism that when figured out mimics traditional thoughts. Hense working Autism. No Autism "experts" of today have a clue to what we are about and don't seem to care. On the chance we are right, please read over the following.

People suffering from the Avoidant Personality Disorder feel inadequate,unworthy, inferior, and lacking in self-confidence. As a result, they areshy and socially inhibited. Thinking in Pictures is a multi steep process that happens during the lack of eye contact. While our Eyes our off our Brains are on. Young Autistic in our era were absently figuring out we had to think with a day dream convert that day dream to real life thoughts and then into speech. That takes time and practice and no one was there to teach us, we are all self taught. We have discovered our Autism thoughts are the building blocks of the human mind. Aware of their real (and, often, imagined)shortcomings, they are constantly on the lookout, are hypervigilant and hypersensitive. I'm sure we present that way, and from the eyes of a traditional thinkers that idea makes a lot of sense. BUT autism thoughts and keen senses like hearing and our Einstein Thoughts give us many different social clues and social standard to follow. It take us many years to discover were on a different planet from the people we are talking to. Even the slightest, most constructive and well-meant or helpful criticism and disagreement are perceived as complete rejection,ridicule, and shaming. Consequently, they go to great lengths to avoid situations that require interpersonal contact - such as attending school,making new friends, accepting a promotion, or teamwork activities. Hence the Avoidant Personality Disorder. Shockingly If our autism anthropology and its people were ever admitted to AUTISM would be blown over with a feather. Once we learn our ADVANCED Picture Thoughts, like picture in picture thoughts and can finally keep track of body language and still think with day dream thoughts we do very well and are very social! Once we also learn to water down our autism thoughts (Einstein type thought) and not take every word literally we really start to thrive. Inevitably, Avoidants find it difficult to establish intimate relationships. Here again, our Autism Anthropology is TEAMING with long term partnerships some of us have had lifetime partners. Granted we might have some trouble but who doesn't? Naturally autism the Invented Autism of Rain Man was made in the eyes of Rain Man so there is just no room or even knowledge of the building blocks of the human mind. When Dr. Rimland forgot the Crypto Sensitive Autism Guidelines he might have never understood he unknowingly set back mankind centuries. Naturally Modern Autism is not any better, they to are working from the same mold and thus can't see the Forrest as they are looking at the trees.

They "test' the potential friend, mate, or spouse to see whether they accept them uncritically and unconditionally. They demand continue verbalreassurances that they are really wanted, desired, loved, or cared about. Many of us in the autism Anthropology also have GREAT experience with this very trait as we sometimes have a Narcissistic Parent we have been covering for to many years.

I'm sure Autism and psychology "experts" of all types are going this guy is full of something and keep in mind they are Self Elected Experts and guardian of all things autism and traditional thinkers to boot, that leaves Autism frozen in a timewarp. (as well a mankind). Not a one of them it seems can even fathom Autism Is BOTH MR/DD and Einstein and those of us figuring out the MR/DD have tapped into our Einstein traits and it is really too bad we didn't stop at Rain Man. Autism Experts expect and are delighted with Rain Man and even make movies and based on Autism Success from Rain Man down the scale. But in reality those of us that made it are smooth operating Rain Men and women that blend in. In fact, we are so well adjusted that we are indeed the autistic of time gone by that the modern folks are looking for. We are the anti epidemic levelers of time gone by. Of course no one in Modern Autism is looking to discover us-were bad for business. I know you can't unring a bell but if autism could turn back time and forget Rain Man, mankind's mind would be mapped out by now via Autism Thoughts.

Have you ever caught your self Stumped? And say I can picture that? I can't put a name to it? or I can see it in my mind? Those Picture thoughts your experiencing might well be what I'm talking about. For you they work silently bellow the surface most of the time... Autistic folks have to use those thought all the time and then sort cut them or convert them to traditional thoughts. Could this indeed be the building blocks of the human mind? Are ALL OF us picture thinkers? Rich Shull on the Blog Autism Pre Rain Man Autism.