Autism / Marriage
Perhaps just for a moment I beg of my readers to stop and think for a moment of "what if" Autism today is somewhat over blown? There really is a whole bank of knowledge of people like me and even our parents and siblings that have never been heard from or studied (despite our plea). Autism all of autism paints a very different more livable condition when old folks are factored back into the autism equation and if were ever admitted to and studied and our anthropology is ever united many ideals of modern Autism will be proven useless. Much of old working autism was simple good common sense and the wonderful ideal we were never diagnosed. I'm sure despite my parents having their moments in part due to my "oddness" it was much more manageable when it was just Rich the odd the kid and NOT Rich the Autistic retard. Before Autism was a curse and a reason to miss out on life we found things we could do as a family that helped save their marriage. I was able to go bike riding with dad on Centuries (100 mile trips) and the like but I could not do baseball or run. There was so much hope and their still is in our stories that have never been told.
Sadly, in the autism way the whole truth is not at all pretty either. Of the 200 or more of us that know each other that do more than Temple wrote about MANY of us have some sort of LOOPED usually narcissistic parent or close family member were dealing with. As we met each other on line and explained our double blind autism experiences to each other, it was outright scary to hear person after person tell of their looped dad or mother or sometimes brother or sister. Many of us care for that family member and autistically learned a very wild lesion in life as Narcissism and autism crossed paths. Narcissism is perhaps the very best psychopath condition to have if you have an autistic kid as a narcissistic person gets a ready made puppet to serve them with their fish hook charms and they also get to play with ease the role of perfect caring parent with and autistic kid (please feel sorry for me). Narcissistic have this way about them and it takes a few years to realize your hooked and indeed the smart parent runs from the Autism-Narcissism combination. I am very sorry to have to report the ugly side to autism but even IF the Autism Society ever does its job and unites our anthropology it would never in a million billion years admit to his part of our experience. Just think If this trend carried threw to the modern Autism Spectrum and more Narcissism was exposed? Narcissism is largely invisible (but deadly) and it hasn't been on Ophrea, Dr Phil or Larry King yet and its just to nasty to be exposed as TV and Media hasn't quite sunk that low just yet.
Alas, an Autism family member is indeed a great strain on a marriage especially today as Autism is now a designer condition and all the experts have chimed in mandating all kinds of "useless ideas." Actually in their point of view they are 100% right but, in the entire scope of autism they missed the entire point to autism. By the time the diets drugs no discipline and eye contact issues over take a marriage there is simply no room left to have a marriage. Shockingly IF our Old Autism experience was accounted for you would find Autism was pretty much a non issue at one time and even a way to unknowingly unite our parents as they shared in our odd experiences and our ill timed success. It was the Joy of "Autism Victory" not the pain of modern autism.
Rich Shull, Author Autism Pre Rain Man Autism (built on Thinking in Pictures)
Inventor Truing Motor, GREEN 70% Efficient AUTISTICALLY designed motor.
Look Up Alan Turing (1912-1954) on the web our Autism Hero, Father of the computer.
Read more about Autism's Living Working connected Past and future on the Web At Rich's Web Blog Pre Rain Man Autism http://prerainmanautism.blogspot.com