Just What do you do with Eye Contact?
An excerpt of a conversation between older aspies.
(off humor among friends) "Just what is it they do with eye contact anyway? I don't see them "beaming messages" in a telepathic, Star Trek type manner from eye to eye, person to person? Even they loose eye contact at times during conversation and why is they can talk on the phone and still communicate? Why do they insist on eye contact from an Aspie, and go to extremes and great length to get it? Don't they realize (they don't) we are thinking or trying to think while they are talking to us? That gazed look is A GREAT SIGN, it means the autism thought process is there and functioning. It only needs developed and the experiement totally completed.
This is the point of the blog entry where the "experts" of autism cough and groan and perhaps call us a few names and resolve to do even more to keep us hidden than ever before. But, in reality it is the point in our conversation where some party doesn't know what they are talking about. I'll be the first to admit I am, we are not perfect but, we do have a long term COMPLETED Autism Experiment to stand on. We do have a living anthropology of people that did the same blind autism experiment and came up with much the same results.
We do not have a list of TV Credits, or Fundraisers, Ph.D's, celebrity support, Race Cars or even TV shows about us or the stereotype of common modern autism. We have a few public speaking engagements to our credit (In America) (for the Center for disease Control Listing to Autism session (Oct 2004) Indianapolis Indiana) an unadmitted to book and lots of professionals stunned that someone figured out the Aspie condition. We don't have a bankroll of Taxpayer money or a group of spin doctors trying to hide the obvious. It was not our intention to deflate the current autism empire it was just bad timing. We might never be able to over come their power, might and money.
Smart parents will learn of us on their own and use the insight to do their own version of autism like we did and freedom like that will unleash the Aspie mind and aspies themselves will figure out their conditions like we have. I Pray one of them will Straight as an arrow (but not narrow) (for their sake in America) and will be able to be crowned "the Next Temple Grandin" and have the title stick. For good measure I also recommend a PH.d. as well ,just to make sure your point might be heard.
Just for the record , there is a good reason for eye contact and I understand why people see it as vital and for most populations it is vital. However, while we are missing out on the eye contact many of us have our Optic vision turned off during that time and we would not see you even IF we were looking right at you. Our Optic vision is being replace with a "daydream" as you would know it and a brain generated image filling our visual field as we know it. Proficient picture thinkers literally think with that "daydream." While some of the world is curing autism now we have understood it for years. There is no need to cure autism It is simply a different language: just one that has never been discovered yet.
I guess that leaves us in the Dark Ages, (humor) Beam me up Scotty!