99 Conversations People Have
Being Autisitc and having traditional thought as a second language and not the first we learned to mimic traditional conversation as we learned our primary thoughts on our own by trial and error. Our Picture based optic canceling thoughts require us to in so many words to take your daydreams and convert them to real words, or action. Fledgeling Autistic people might never have got the chance to "catch-up." Normal conversation moves so quick that by the time we figure out what we want to say the conversation has moved on or even ended. We have to take our picture thoughts that could be worth a 1000 words or a million thoughts and convert them relevant speech in a matter of a few milliseconds. That is indeed impossible so we have absently learned to do the next best thing we learned the conversation pattern and types people have and simply fill in the blanks with their names and facts etc.
That step in our thoughts that converts picture thoughts to real words is the / key to autism\. We need to water down our thoughts and turn them into words, a task easier said than done. It is also a task that has never graced a text book before and no psychologist or Autism "expert" has bothered to learn form us. If we ever got our wish of a true autism school we would call the this the basics like you refer to the ABC's. These are the ABC's of autism. It took many of us 3-4-5-6-10 years to figure out the steps to our basic steps and some Autisitcs have never had the chance to even be exposed or had the chance to figure out their basics. Sadly Modern Autism hasn't helped too much as what little chance we had of figuring out our conditions vanished with the advent of diagnosis. If our Anthropology were ever studied it would be obvious changing a few things really killed us.
Conversations people have are predictable, our families conversations are the most predicable as we know nearly all of their scripts. People in general have pretty much a scripted conversation in introductions, general chit chat, job interviews, bitch sessions and the basic conversation is put in high gear when one is angry. An angry conversation is just a nasty version of other conversation with a little less fore thought to guide the precious few words of wisdom in a shouting match. If people are lucky during confrontation the right word slips out between the "**** ***" and the other expletives to defuse the conversation.
Generally those of us with proficient thoughts can be dropped in the middle of most conversation these days and still fit in. Occasionally we miss a few points or use the wrong script but was are also masters short sassy comebacks-what we call a gloss over—People really don't listen we have found, to words at least, they more likely listen for the tone of conversation and a few patterns they are familiar with to assure them we are on topic. It takes 20 normal conversations at times to make point it seems. American's are noted for more politically correct conversation but Europeans are more likely to say the word they mean even at the risk of slightly offending someone. Dancing around a subject only draws out the conversation and buries the point that needs made even further in chit chat.
I (we) have heard from many in autism that claim we are not Autistic as we speak too well and carry on too good of a conversation but, we just completed the ENTIRE autism experience as we know it. Simple Expert minds often simply claim we are not autistic without taking into account our real life real world experience. In their eye we indeed are not autistic. To be honest neither are they and until they have walked a mile in our shoes and climbed our mountain the impasse of autism will remain.
Rich Shull, Author Autism Pre Rain Man Autism, inventor of the Turing Motor